Crone Goddess

Could this be the last one?

Anyone have tips to share for honoring your period or the arrival of the Elder / Crone / Post-period phase of life? Or handling the darling little symptoms? Let us know in the comments below and you could win a 7 Day Pantyliner Kit for you – plus, a Teen Booklet to share with the next generation!

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It is a really interesting place in my life that I find myself in. I am in my mid forties and fully experiencing the “signs” of menopause. I am taking them in stride and, so far, it is not so bad. Kinda interesting what the body can do.

Remember being a teenager? Ever want to go back?

Well, some parts of menopause do make you feel like a teenager, just not necessarily the good parts! But it does make me ponder every period – are you the last one? How will it feel to no longer have my period? I will truly no longer be “fertile”. I have had my tubes tied for years so technically I have been unable to have children for a long time, but this is really, really the end!

As much as I have had my moments and many years of uncomfortable disposable pad and tampon use before discovering Lunapads; I started my period at the very young age of 8. My first period memories are of being reassured I was not going to die and a trip to our doctor who inserted a tampon in me and told me to walk around. I promptly fainted on the floor.

My mom remembers “Mrs O’Mara could you please come in the exam room” and seeing me passed out on the ground. Not the ideal period introduction! Luckily this kind of introduction is becoming less common. Check out Happier periods, naturally! The Lunapads guide to natural cycles for girls and teens. This is an awesome resource for starting a conversation with a pre-period girl or anyone who is curious about how to talk to teens about periods.

So you would think after all those years I would be looking forward to the end. But I am not. I am feeling kind of sad. As a result, I am cherishing every period I have. My kids are growing up, one has left the nest.. maybe that is a part of the melancholy often associated with menopause?

On the upside, I am getting to use more Lunapads Pantyliners! How about you?

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  • lace

    I take the time to slow down and reflect on the past month and what the future month will hold.

  • Melanie

    To honor the symptoms I make sure to keep clean as well as to keep fresh every day.  I do my best to make sure odor doesn’t occure which helps me accept myself even during those (rainy) days. lol

  • I’ve heard of some ladies putting the discharge in a Moon jar and using it on roses and gardens.

    • Komara

      I have heard this as well apparently plants love soaking water. 

  • As an excessively analytical control freak, the wildly varing hormones teach me first: the importance of the emotional aspects of our lives, and second: the importance of letting go.

    • Komara

      oooo good one!

  • Meredith Miller

    I have three daughters, and spend more time that I ever imagined wondering how and when to introduce the subject of puberty and periods to them. They see my cloth pads in the wash with the diapers, think that they are adorable and have asked what they are for. My oldest is 7, and based on the history in my family, I should have about 5 years until she gets her first period. When she has inquired before I have just tried to explain that every month a woman’s body prepares for a baby, and if you don’t have one in your belly, it cleans itself out for he next month… I don’t want them to see it as a burden, but as a normal part of the beauty that is being a woman. 

  • AJ

    I find yoga both honors my body’s cycles and helps with the symptoms! Peaceful reflection is especially important at that time, and gentle stretching and exercise ease any aches and discomfort.

  • Anonymous

    I imagine that menopause will be sort of like weaning from breastfeeding… will this be the last feed ever? Will this be the last period ever? It’s bittersweet isn’t it? I try to take some time to myself every month – and as a mama of three, that’s pretty hard sometimes!

    I have my own mini Red Tent retreat in my bathtub most months with candles, salts, chocolate, sometimes a glass of red wine or red raspberry tea. I half-meditate and honestly half-sleep for a good long soak, and then let any worries or concerns go down the drain. It’s a new cycle. I plan on teaching my daughter the same thing, so she too can be a moonwise woman. 🙂 

  • Lolliegee

    I am trying to honor my body by making the switch to reusable products. I have just started using a cup and am absolutely astounded at how much cleaner it is.

  • My sister is going through her change life right now and has had some terrible night sweats. I talked to a friend of mine who runs a Wiccan herb shop for some herbal advice. She suggested Black Cohosh Root. The roots  of black cohosh have long been used medicinally by Native American Indians. Extracts from these plant materials are thought to possess analgesic, sedative, and anti-inflammatory properties. So my sister made a tea; she simmered 20g of dried cohosh root with 32oz of filtered water, she let the “tea” simmer for 20 minutes, added honey to sweeten and then once it cooled stored it in the fridge. She then drinks 1 cup each evening. it may cause drowsiness, that’s why she takes it in the evening. If you’re not menopausal, the tea eases cramps! i started taking it to relieve my endometriosis!! If i win, i will gift the liners to my dear sister in a gift basket with more Black Cohosh!!

  • Sophino

    My mom has been struggling with menopause for many years. She started
    menopause very early, more than 15 years ago when she was still in her
    early 30’s. This was brought on by a partial hysterectomy.
    She had had many problems with her periods all her life and saw the
    procedure as the solution. Little did she know that she would need many
    other procedures afterwards and that they would all be life altering.
    While she was experiencing things like night sweats, I, on the other
    hand, was having my first periods. Growing up, it always felt strange to
    me being the only one in the house having to deal with my period every
    month. And because my mom and I weren’t going threw the same things, at
    the same time, I was never very accepting of my period. If anything, I
    saw my mom’s situation as a blessing: she didn’t need things like pads
    and tampons and certainly didn’t have awful monthly cramps. Because her
    periods had always been such a nightmare, my mom was
    never really able to give me positive advise. In a sense,
    she never really embraced womanhood. At home, periods were
    something you were discrete about and you basically had to hide it.

    Luckily for me, discovering lunapads a year ago changed my life! For the

    first time I am seeing periods – and womanhood – in a positive light.
    Lunapads are such a wonderful product and have really been invented with
    womens’ bodies in mind.  I would love to offer my mom a pantylinner kit
    so she can also learn to love her body and so she can finally have a
    positive experience about the natural changes occurring in her body.

  • Emily O

    I don’t have any experience with menopause, but I do remember my introduction to periods. Our health teacher told us about them, and then said we should feel grateful if it takes us longer than expected to get them. It wasn’t exactly a positive outlook on the whole thing! My first period involved me being very embarrassed to tell my mother and her running out to the store to buy me some pads. We had never talked about it before. I’m hoping that if I ever have a daughter that I can talk to her about periods in a positive and natural way and prepare her to get them with as little embarrassment and drama as possible. I might even throw a party! But before I do that, I hope I can have that conversation with my little sister. She is only ten right now, but someday I want to talk to her about periods and the different ways that she can love and celebrate her body during that time. I might even buy her a Lunapads kit to help her get started on the right track. I know I spent too many years being embarrassed and ashamed of my period and hating myself while I was bleeding, and I don’t want my sister to have to do the same thing. 

  • Hillary

    I don’t have any experience of my own with menopause, but I am supporting my mother while she goes through it. We laugh now about the situations we have got into with our periods…we were both late bloomers, me 14 and her 16! I got mine on a day I was feeling very brave and wore a thong (!). The next day was my big school field trip to 6 Flags and I had been looking forward to all the water rides…needless to say, I didn’t go on a single one! My advice would be to reminisce about the stories we now laugh at and celebrate the changes in our lives 🙂

  • Hannah Barnhorn

    I started my period when I was very young as well.  I was scared to tell my mother so I hid it for a few months.  I am pretty sure that made her upset.  It wasn’t until I was in college that I discovered menstrual cups and felt a sense of relief and control.  I wish I had been introduced to res useable pads before.

    • Congratulations Hannah, you are the winner! Thanks so much for all of your responses.

  • Courtney

    I wish my mom luck as she heads into menopause. I want her to stay happy and healthy.

  • Falan

    I would allow yourself one day during your moon cycle to fully just be and allow space to open to this new passage.  To allow yourself the time and room to mourn the loss and welcome the new.  Remember that after our bleeding days are over we hold our wisdom inside to share with the world.  You can be a vibrant, beautiful light of a woman during your crone years!

    • Komara

      Thank you!

  • Emma

    I don’t know any one with these symptoms. Yet, i myself are in need of more of those pantyliners and  since i am a teen the book would be nice.

  • Komara

    Fantastic suggestions! Thank you all! Now to build myself a red tent 🙂

  • Adica_Arethusa

    I honor my period by remembering to do something nice for myself.  With school, work, and other responsibilities, it’s sometimes easy for me to forget that I need to take care of myself, too.  I use my period as a way to remind me to slow down and do something restful, like take a short nap or do something else fun or relaxing to unwind and de-stress.  (It also helps that the blood loss makes me rather sleepy, heh.)

  • Erin

    I honor my period reflecting on the past month and taking some time out of my busy days for some “Me” time. I have a nice relaxing bath, drink a cup of Moon Cycle tea and put on my sweatpants and hoodie. I curl up on the couch with a cozy blanket and read a good book and daydream. I think about my cycle and how empowering it is. I embrace the beautiful and magical thing happening to my body.

  • Elizabeth

    Until recently, I dreaded my cycle (Thanks to everyone for teaching me to be ashamed and disgusted by it).  Now I appreciate it.  Think about what it means, what it signifies… woman, mature, capable of producing life, power, connected…  What I think I like most about it, is the significance of maturity, yet youthful (in the prime of life, so to speak).  Instead of dreading it’s coming, I dread it’s ending.  I want to feel that connection, I want to appreciate the changes in my body (even the mood swings and cramps- they signify what my body is capable of, and what it can endure).  And to honor it, I try to use it as a way to connect to everything around me (Especially other people… it’s amazing how much influence you have based around where you are at in your cycle!).  A little chocolate doesn’t hurt either…

  • I don’t stress it! I take time to really relax and catch my breath when it comes around. It’s a time to be happy and appreciative that your body is healthy and doing what comes natural. 🙂 

  • Akaeilla

    I’m only in my very early 40’s, but totally unexpectedly missed a whole period over Christmas for the first time in almost 30 years (well, except for 3 x 9month misses :). The very thought that my previous period could have been my last sent me through a ton of emotions and I truly grieved the loss of my “moon time”. Shocking, I know!  Then she came back a month later and my doctor confirmed that I am still VERY fertile…lol!  For the first time in my life, I truly appreciate and honour when that pesky aunt comes for a visit and can completely relate to this post.

    Thank you to everyone for sharing your stories!

  • Venus

    Just discovered this post. A terrific topic, as menopause is really the other side of the moon for Luna. Post-menopausal now for 3 years, I understand the sadness some women feel: menopause is a milestone and a natural part of aging, yet it is a loss, of one’s youth, a loss of promise, potential. As I passed through peri-menopause after 45, then menopause at 51, I was watching myself “gear down” from 40 years of periods: Like a great engine aiming for gentler velocities, my body has “stuttered” from night sweats and anxiety as it adjusts to estrogen’s flight. It is the end of one’s reproductive years, but it’s far from the end of *being* productive. It’s important to admit the exhaustion and burnout one feels at midlife, because renegotiating terms with your own body is part of the process, the foundation for What Comes Next—the great second act of 50 and beyond.

    I miss the monthly connection to Life’s immense forces and energies—and I do miss being young enough to have periods. But menopause is also Life’s wondrous reminder that it’s time to consider other forms of creativity….